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Reality in 'Sex and the City'


In the reality of life, we are faced with difficult situations and must answer complicated questions.

"Sex and the City" attempts to address these situations and questions for us in "Catch -38," which aired on Jan. 18 and "Out of the Frying Pan," which aired on Jan. 25. The hit HBO original series, which airs at 8 p.m. on Sunday nights, has aired four of the eight final episodes.

"Catch-38" Miranda (Cynthia Nixon) informs Carrie (Sarah Jessica Parker), Charlotte (Kristin Davis) and Samantha (Kim Cattrall) that her and husband Steve (David Eigenberg) are going on a honeymoon. Miranda has her usual cynical attitude about going. Steve arranged reservations at a resort in the woods. Miranda becomes overwhelmed with the love-making and is eager to go home. In Manhattan, Samantha visits a doctor who tells her she will have to go through chemotherapy. Samantha tries to get an appointment with a very busy doctor. While she waits, Samantha meets a nun that tells her she has been waiting for days to schedule an appointment. So, after days of using her PR skills and dropping well-known names, Samantha and the nun get appointments. While Carrie is baby-sitting Brady, her relationship with Aleksandr Petrovsky (Mikhail Baryshnikov) is heating up and she raises the question of having children. Petrovsky tells Carrie that he has already had a child, and he is unable to have anymore because he had a vasectomy. He also makes Carrie aware that she is only 38.

Then Carrie realizes that she had not gotten around to having children and that she may never have children if she is with him. So the question that she asks is, “Does society pressure us to get married, have children, or is it just a Catch-38?”

"Out of the Frying Pan" Petrovsky meets Carrie outside her apartment for a date. Carrie thinks that they are going out for dinner, but Petrovsky surprises her and cooks dinner at her place. After dinner, they go into her kitchen to make an espresso, but to their dismay, they find a mouse crawling on the counter. Petrosky smashes it with a frying pan. When Carrie tells him that he killed it, he replies by saying, “It’s only a rodent.”

The next morning, Charlotte, Carrie and Miranda come to Samantha’s chemotherapy session. Samantha jokes around with the girls. She tells everyone that she is going to Smith’s movie premiere, and declares, “I’m going to kick cancer and that red carpet’s ass.”

Charlotte and husband Harry (Evan Handler) are trying to have a baby by in-vitro. Charlotte receives a call that “none of her eggs are viable, again.”

Miranda’s apartment becomes overcrowded with her new family. Steve suggests a house in Brooklyn, and Miranda informs him that she’s a Manhattan girl.

Meanwhile, Carrie explains to Petrovsky that he is insensitive to her feelings about Samantha’s cancer. He continues to talk about the death of his friend and tells Carrie that she is in denial.

The reality of cancer hits Samantha when Smith accidentally pulls her hair during sex and some of it falls out.

Carrie says that a conversation she has with Miranda brought her back to reality.

“Or more specifically, the people who want us to live in it. The world tells us to get real, but what happens when living in reality means living in pain, fear or Brooklyn. If defense mechanisms can get us through the difficult times, how bad can it be? Maybe the reality is we need denial. Denial: friend or foe?"

In the end, all four main characters accept denial. Overall, these episodes of "Sex and the City" stress the point that in life we may not always do the things that society thinks we should.

And that there are situations or traditions that we wish we didn’t have to do, but in the end, they bring us back to reality and remind us that sometimes we are just in denial!