Dear Advice Girl,

How do you keep things civil when you have to spend time with people who dislike you more than you dislike them?

Over It

Dear Over It,

First off, are you sure your dislike is less than the other person’s?

Perhaps they are over it as well and you are still hung up on it. If this is not the case, then the best way is to be civil. I am reminded of the quote “Keep your friends close but your enemies closer.”

That’s not saying that you and this person should become great friends or you should fake a friendship, but continually check up and see how this person is.

There is no way you will be blindsided if something does happen later.

Advice Girl

Dear Advice Girl,

Do you really know what it’s like to live in hell?

And if so, can you please advise the rest of us on how not to wind up there?

Thanks.

Bama Babe

Dear Bama Babe,

I don’t know. Haven’t been there. Send me a postcard?

Dear Advice Girl,

I'm seriously depressed all the time. I have been considering withdrawing from school and it's only the fourth week.

Although I love my job, it’s the cause of most of my problems. I'm behind in my school work. What should I do?

Overwhelmed and Underpaid

Dear Overwhelmed and Underpaid,

Take stock in the things that are really important in your life at this moment.

Ultimately, you must determine what you have to absolutely do and what makes you happy.

Everything else can be done away with. Prioritizing is a big part of growing up as is eliminating the unnecessary.

Dear Advice Girl,

Should a guy make the first date a really big deal, or should he plan several small, but equally important dates?

Patiently Waiting

Dear Patiently Waiting,

It really depends on the girl, but for the most part you should plan the several small, but equally important dates.

You should leave her wanting more and not set yourself up for disappointment so early on.

You may go on the first date and not like her as much as you thought you did.

If the first date is really big, you will be sending very mixed signals and risk setting one of you up for disappointment.

Advice Girl

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